There was a moment when I was feeling down, there was no one around, only me... caught in the emptiness. I'd just lost something precious and most important thing in my life. It was my relationship with my best friend. I never knew how precious my friend was until the relationship was broken. What is your precious one?
I used to be a hotheaded person. It's already in my blood, lust of anger that told you, "Don't make me angry, you wouldn't like me when I'm angry." When I was getting angry, I used to hurt my best friend with my body language and sometimes sharp sentences just because small thing. It didn't hurt outside but it did.. hurt inside. It might not be physical, but it wounded my best friend heart. If I look back to the past, I feel so fool and ruin everything good when I'm angry. Have you ever experienced moment like me?
Since I lost my best friend, I had set aside time to think. I didn't want this moment happen for the second time. I pray to be a better person then I found a way to manage my anger. Whenever I've gotten angry, I drink water a lot (cold water would be better), I keep the distance with the others, not much talking, and find some place to be alone. I don't want someone get hurt because of my anger. If I angry to the person I know, my heart will say, "If you love him/her, don't be angry. You don't wanna lose him/her right?" And I always keep in mind that never let the sun goes down before your anger fade away. If I tired controlling my anger, I will release the heat through sleeping. And when I wake up, I've already forgotten those anger feeling. Well, this work for me.
It's not always me who get angry. Sometimes I have to deal with other person who gets angry. Tips to face angry person are be patient, keep calm, act in manner way, talk tenderly, and understand what the problem is. If the problem can not be identified, keep the distance from that person.
Anger is not always negative. If someone stealing or doing criminal things and you're angry to that criminal action, it means that your conscience is still working. In that case, what makes anger become right or wrong is how you react to anger feeling. Commonly, anger is manifest in negatives way. Control the anger and get back your joy.
Other quotes that I remember to overcome my anger:
"When you are angry, count till 10 before you start talking"
I used to be a hotheaded person. It's already in my blood, lust of anger that told you, "Don't make me angry, you wouldn't like me when I'm angry." When I was getting angry, I used to hurt my best friend with my body language and sometimes sharp sentences just because small thing. It didn't hurt outside but it did.. hurt inside. It might not be physical, but it wounded my best friend heart. If I look back to the past, I feel so fool and ruin everything good when I'm angry. Have you ever experienced moment like me?
Since I lost my best friend, I had set aside time to think. I didn't want this moment happen for the second time. I pray to be a better person then I found a way to manage my anger. Whenever I've gotten angry, I drink water a lot (cold water would be better), I keep the distance with the others, not much talking, and find some place to be alone. I don't want someone get hurt because of my anger. If I angry to the person I know, my heart will say, "If you love him/her, don't be angry. You don't wanna lose him/her right?" And I always keep in mind that never let the sun goes down before your anger fade away. If I tired controlling my anger, I will release the heat through sleeping. And when I wake up, I've already forgotten those anger feeling. Well, this work for me.
It's not always me who get angry. Sometimes I have to deal with other person who gets angry. Tips to face angry person are be patient, keep calm, act in manner way, talk tenderly, and understand what the problem is. If the problem can not be identified, keep the distance from that person.
Anger is not always negative. If someone stealing or doing criminal things and you're angry to that criminal action, it means that your conscience is still working. In that case, what makes anger become right or wrong is how you react to anger feeling. Commonly, anger is manifest in negatives way. Control the anger and get back your joy.
Other quotes that I remember to overcome my anger:
"When you are angry, count till 10 before you start talking"
7 comments:
when you are angry just try to be quiet
nice share ci ru..
i usually take a deep breath till the anger's gone :D
- ym -
:D
i'm always learning from your exp ci RU..
keep posting a good story..
^__^
Hz
I agree with you ym and I think take a deep breath can make our feeling relieved :)
Thank you Hantze, keep reading ya :)
This is not anger management but rather to how treat an anger. I agree that anger destroys many things. Forests burned because of it.
But for me, I prefer to prevent anger before it devoured everything. In recent months, I try to accept a lot of things that I had been rejected outright. So this is my recipe, learning to accept then gradually began to realize the signs of anger before it explodes.
It hurt to hold such explosive force that even with water and deep breathing.
Thank you for adding point about preventing anger by accepting unexpected condition.
In my opinion, anger is natural expression of feeling. When you said you realize signs of anger, it means you already feel angry. The different between hotheaded person and the patient one is how we react.
It's not easy to make yourself comfort accepting everything that you are unhappy with. But if you can accept what you can not accept then I think you have become a patient person.
If you can't get angry, you are not human being.
This is why we call anger management, because there are anger to managed. :D
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